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Dropped
Threads 2: More of What We Aren't Told
The idea for
Dropped Threads: What We Aren't Told came up between
Carol Shields and longtime friend Marjorie Anderson over lunch.
It appeared that after decades of feminism, the “women's network”
still wasn't able to prevent women being caught off-guard by life.
There remained subjects women just didn't talk about, or felt they
couldn't talk about. Holes existed in the fabric of women's discourse,
and they needed examining.
They asked thirty-four
women to write about moments in life that had taken them by surprise
or experiences that received too little discussion, and then they
compiled these pieces into a book. It became an instant number one
bestseller, a book clubs' favourite and a runaway success. Dropped
Threads, says Anderson, "tapped into a powerful need
to share personal stories about life's defining moments of surprise
and silence." Readers recognized themselves in these honest
and intimate stories; there was something universal in these deeply
personal accounts. Other stories and suggestions poured in. Dropped
Threads would clearly be an ongoing project.
Like the first
volume, Dropped Threads 2 features stories by well-known
novelists and journalists such as Jane Urquhart, Susan Swan and
Shelagh Rogers, but also many excellent new writers including teachers,
mothers, a civil servant, a therapist. This triumphant follow-up
received a starred first review in Quill and Quire magazine,
which called it “compassionate and unflinching.” The
book deals with such difficult topics as loss, depression, disease,
widowhood, violence, and coming to terms with death. Several stories
address some of the darker sides of motherhood:
- A mother
describes how, while sleep-deprived and in a miserable marriage,
she is shocked to find infanticide crossing her mind
- Another
woman recounts a memory of her alcoholic mother demanding the
children prove their loyalty in a terrifying way
- A woman
desperate for children refers to the bleak truth as: "Another
Christmas of feeling barren." Narrating the fertility treatment
she undergoes, the hopes dashed, she is amusing in retrospect
and yet brutally honest
While they deal
with loss and trauma, the pieces show the path to some kind of acceptance,
showing the authors’ determination to learn from pain and
pass on the wisdom gained. The volume also covers the rewards of
learning to be a parent, choosing to remain single, or fitting in
as a lesbian parent. It explores how women feel when something is
missing in a friendship, how they experience discrimination, relationship
challenges, and other emotions less easily defined but just as close
to the bone:
- Alison Wearing
in “My Life as a Shadow” subtly describes allowing
her personality to be subsumed by her boyfriend's
- Pamela Mala
Sinha tells how, after suffering a brutal attack, she felt self-hatred
and a longing for retribution
- Dana McNairn
talks of her uncomfortable marriage to a man from a different
social background: "I wanted to fit in with this strange,
wondrous family who never raised their voices, never swore and
never threw things at one another"
Humour, a confiding
tone, and beautiful writing elevate and enliven even the darkest
stories. Details bring scenes vividly to life, so we feel we are
in the room with Barbara Defago when the doctor tells her she has
breast cancer, coolly dividing her life into a 'before and after.'
Lucid, reflective and poignant, Dropped Threads 2
is for anyone interested in women's true stories.
Contents
Adrienne Clarkson, Foreword
Marjorie Anderson, Introduction
End
Notes
Jane Urquhart Losing Paul:
A Memoir
Alison Wearing My Life
as a Shadow
Mary Jane Copps In My Mother's
Arms
Lisa Majeau Gordon An Exercise
in Fertility
Billie Livingston Cat
Bag
Shirley Serviss One Step
Forward
Pamela Mala Sinha Hiding
Dana McNairn A Marriage
in Seven Parts
Lisa Gregoire Northern
Lights and Darkness
Variations
Maggie Dwyer Like Mother,
Like Daughter
Sandra Martin Snapshots
Barbara Defago Inside Talking
Linda Harlos The Fall, and
After
Hildegard Martens
By Choice
Marianne Brandis Virgin
Crone
Faith Johnston Debonding
Sarah Harvey Mother
Interrupted
C.J. Papoutsis They Didn't
Come with Instructions
Glimpses
Ingeborg Boyens On the Water's
Edge
Mary J. Breen Nobody Needs
to Know
Jennifer L. Schulz
Toe-Ring
Debbie Culbertson A
Place on the Pavement
Wanda Wuttunee We Are
More Than Our Problems
Linda Rogers Bettina's
Hat
Michele Landsberg Don't
Say Anything
Susan Swan My Secret Life
as a Mother
Nourishment
Karen Houle Double Arc
Elizabeth Hay Ten Beauty Tips
You Never Asked For
Carole Sabiston Conjuring
Up a New Life
Flora MacDonald New Voices
Sandra Beardsall Life
with an Overeager Conscience
Sandra Birdsell One of
a Bunch
Maude Barlow The Coat I
Left Behind
Ann Dowsett Johnston The
Boy Can't Sleep
Shelagh Rogers Speaking
of Dying
Carol
Shields, Afterword
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